Everybody do The Daycare Shuffle

I have to admit, the most stressful parts of my day are the pick-up and drop-off at daycare. I have the shortest commute, so Daddy’s truck has been deemed the Kid Taxi. That used to not be as big of a deal when it was just Reed and I would be in-and-out in 2 minutes or less. When Reed started walking on his own with my guidance, we added a bit more time for his short legs, but it was still no sweat.

Now that Alison has started daycare, she alone has created 3 times the cargo necessary to be transported in and out of the house on a daily basis. Alison in her carrier plus her daycare bag is enough, but add a wandering, headstrong toddler to the mix and you have chaos in a bottle.

Reed’s latest favorite phrase is, “all by self”. It is mostly used when getting into and out of my truck. He likes to climb up the running board and into the cab, and then down the big steps to the ground. As you can imagine, his insistence on doing this can add to Daddy’s frustration when time is not on our side.

There are 2 rules for Ali’s classroom that cause a bit of frustration everyday:
1) You either have to have shoe covers on, or take off your shoes completely. Given that there are never any shoe covers available, I have to unlace and bend down to take my shoes off every time. They don’t even have a bench or chair for parents to do this, so I am always bending over in the middle of the hallway (with parents and kids walking nearby), or propping myself against the wall. Either way, it is a huge inconvenience for those of us that are not wearing slip-ons or flip-flops. I have watched one other working mom wear house slippers, and I’m seriously considering the alternative.
2) Siblings cannot enter the infant classroom. I get this one, I really do, but it causes a logistics catch-22. Logic says that Ali is the last one I drop off, and the first one I pick up. However, these rules don’t account for the following: Trying to usher a toddler to his classroom with 2 arm loads of gear, and taking the infant carrier to the toddler room for pick up where she will be mauled by other toddlers while trying to round up the sibling.

I’m hoping that this is as hard as it is going to get, and it will be better soon as the kids get older in the near future. If any of you older parents have different opinions, you can hold them to yourself and allow me to live in ignorance, with hope that the light at the end of the tunnel is getting bigger.

RB

The important progress report

If you know me at all you know that I obsess about my weight.  There is no mystery…its just a fact.  I didn’t lose my baby weight from Reed until I got pregnant with Ali.  I am NOT doing that again!  Ali is 3 months old today (yes, I will make a separate post for her) and I still have almost 20 pounds to lose.  I gained way too much when I was pregnant with her but I’m going to be proactive about losing it this time. 

Since Lent started I have lost 6 pounds and I hope to lose another few before it ends (and I start letting myself eat sugar again!).  I also started Weight Watchers at work last Wednesday.  Nothing like a weekly weigh in to keep you accountable.  I am also being very intentional about what I bring to work for lunch and snacks.  Luckily we have a gym at work, so I can spend my lunch hour 3 or 4 times a week working out.  (Lord knows I would never find the time to workout after work).  Let’s hope this baby weight will come off sooner than last time 🙂

Ali is 3 Months!

Alison has made it.  She is officially 3 months old.  Why is this such a huge milestone?  Because now we don’t have to take her to the emergency room unless her temp gets to 105!  Let’s pray that doesn’t happen…ever.

Ali is officially the happiest little girl I know.  She is so smiley and chatty all the time.  All you really have to do is look at her and she will flash one of her sweet open mouthed smiles your way.  (Reed was such a stingy smiler.  He made us work hard for every single one.  And not much has changed :))

Ali is still struggling with her sleep.  Some nights she does awesome and some night she is up a lot.  On a good night she will sleep from 8 – 5, but all bets are off if it’s a bad night.  I chalk her sleep problems up to a few things.  1. She can’t breathe.  The poor child has been snotty since the day she was born.  2. We don’t have a consistent bed time routine.  Reed was the lucky first born who had a consistent bed time routine and still does today.  Poor Ali just has to go with the flow.  We are going to start working on a routine though.

Ali is still 100% breast fed which makes me proud. 

She rolled from front to back for the first time when she was 2 months and 2 weeks old.  I thought it was a fluke so I never posted anything about it.  Turns out it wasn’t a fluke.  She does it all the time.  I’m a bad mom and don’t make her do tummy time very often so I really don’t know if she can go from front to back.  Guess we will ask day care about that one…

She is wearing size 1-2 diapers and has just moved up to size 3-6month clothes.  At her doctor’s appt she weighed 12 pounds, 15 ounces. 

I think my favorite thing about Ali and our family is how much her daddy loves her.  Randy loves Reed and always has…but I can definitely see an extra bit of love for our little girl.  Not only is she a girl, but she looks SO much like Randy.  He is extra sweet to her and really loves on her.  Makes me smile 🙂

Reed is also still in love with her.  He always wants to “hug Ali” and “see Ali”.  I love that.  I know it will wear off once they have to start sharing, but for now it melts my heart every time.  (Except when he gets mad and says ‘Ali down’ or when he squeezes her head.  Yes, he has squeezed her head.  Little punk!)

Lent

Lent is a very important season in my life.  I did not grow up ‘giving something up for Lent’.  That is traditionally a Catholic practice and I was raised both Methodist and Presbyterian.  To be honest when I was little we spent most Easter weekends at the lake and didn’t even go to church.  We went to church on a regular basis, but Easter weekend was usually a beautiful spring weekend and so we went to the lake to get the property ready for the summer. 

Fast forward to my life as a wife and mother.  Lent is the single most important time of the year for me.  Holy Week is truly my favorite week of the year.  Yep, it trumps Christmas and birthdays and Halloween (and you know how I LOVE Halloween).  As an adult I have found not only a church and group of church friends that inspire me to be more Christ-like but also a husband who is a fantastic spiritual partner.   I think because I wasn’t raised with ‘giving something up for Lent’ as a requirement, it feels so much more real to me.  I take this season of discipline very seriously.  Every year I pick something that I love, but that I should give up.  One year it was tortillas.  Seems minor, but it was a BIG deal.  One year I gave up cheese.  Seriously, hardest 40 days ever.  This year I had several things I desperately wanted to do to honor Christ and the sacrifice he made to save us all.

Remember my earlier post about being more intentional in my life?  The first Lent discipline I could think of to honor that desire was to give up Facebook.  Facebook is not a priority in my life, but it is something I do all the time, without thinking.  When I’m waiting for a meeting to start, I check FB, when I’m waiting for Reed to finish eating breakfast I check FB, when I’m riding in the car I check FB (riding, not driving!).  I realized how often I check it, and I don’t even really care about it.  Seemed like a very obvious distraction that I should forgo for these 40 days.  What have I learned?  I really don’t need FB!  I honestly don’t miss it at all.  Will I get back on once Easter comes, sure.  Will I incessently check it? Nope.  It is amazing how easy it is to give up Facebook.  Do you find yourself checking it all the time just to fill an empty moment?  I encourage you to put it away.  Look out the window instead.  Or talk to your kids more.  (Or do some work! :))

The second thing I did for Lent was give up sugar.  That’s right.  ALL sugar.  Including high fructose corn syrup, etc.  Why sugar?  Because I absolutely LOVE it.  )I also have lots of baby weight I need to lose and I figured this would help).  I have been dreaming of sugar even before Lent started because I was nervous to give it up.  I ate my weight in birthday cake (mine and Reed’s birthdays were right before Ash Wednesday) because I was so nervous about giving it up.  How am I doing now that Easter is getting close?  Do I still miss it?  You better believe it!!  I dream about sugar.  I also dream about the shame I would feel if I forgot and accidentally ate some.  That gives me nightmares.  Am I already planning what I will eat first?  You bet!  I c-a-n-n-o-t wait until Easter morning when I can eat some sweets!! 

The final thing I committed to do for Lent is read a 40 day devotional called ’24 Hours that changed the World’.  It has been fantastic.  It has grounded me every single day and reminded me why I am denying myself these human pleasures.  It is to honor and remember what Christ did in those last 24 hours of his life.  I highly recommend this devotional if you are looking for one.  It is appropriate for any time of year, not just during Lent.

There you have it.  My heart on a platter.  Hope you enjoyed 🙂

Aggie Baseball Weekend

Our tailgate weekends in Aggieland are some of my favorite weekends of the entire year.  In the beginning they were all together and all during football season.  Now we have gotten smart and we space it out.  One for football and one for baseball.  Baseball weekends are longer and MUCH more relaxed. 

In years past Randy and I have either crashed with my parents, or rented a hotel room for the weekend.  This year we rented a pop up trailer and camped right along side the bus.  It was awesome!  We are seriously considering buying a pop up for our family.  Randy grew up camping and I grew up RVing.  When I was very little we had a pop up.  Gradually we upgraded over the years to the fancy bus my parents have now.  It was so much fun to tow our own trailer.  When it came to the sleeping Randy and Reed got one side and Ali and I slept on the other.  Just like when I was a kid.  I think we might have to invest…

The only negative was the train.  If you have ever been to College Station you know that Olsen Field is about 50 feet from train tracks.  Unfortunately that train comes WAY too often.  8 times on Friday night.  Why do you think I know that?  That’s right.  Every.Single.Time that train comes through he blows the horn 8-10 times. SOOO annoying.  Randy said that every time the train came Reed would wake up and then snuggle a little closer to him.  By the end of the night Randy didn’t have a bed or a pillow because Reed had taken over.  Ali slept through the whole thing…lucky little lady.

Saturday was the fun day.  Too bad it was summer weather and not spring.  Since I’m nursing and have 30 pounds to lose the heat was NOT welcome from me.  Despite the heat we had a great time with all of our friends.  I truly love thinking back to how our tailgates have changed in the last 10 years (that’s right 10 years!!!)  We now have more goldfish and sippy cups than coolers full of beer.  I wouldn’t change it for anything. 

My other favorite thing about how our tailgates have evolved over the years is that we are welcoming old friends back again.  Jennifer I was SO happy your family (and Ashley!) joined us.  It was so much fun to catch up with old friends and see their families.

It is always a challenge to pick a weekend that everyone can attend and it’s always a challenge to get your family there, but thank you for making the effort!  I love watching our kids play together.

Julie

Emergency Room

We’ve had quite the excitement in our house over the last month, and not the good kind. Both kids have been sick and we have taken 2 separate trips to the emergency room. When it rains, it pours.

Reed:
A few weeks ago, I was building the race track for Reed’s 2nd Birthday party. I used some particle board that I had leftover from another project. One evening I was working in the garage with Reed out there with me, along with Julie. As I was picking up the large piece of particle board to position it on the saw horses, I didn’t see Reed behind me to my left. The board swung up and the corner caught him in the corner of his right eye, next to the bridge of his nose. He dropped to the ground holding his face as Julie and I both were realizing what had just happened.

There was no significant blood, but his eyelid and area around his eye were certainly swelling. Julie called her mother for an assessment and she came right over… emergency room it is.

The waiting room of Methodist Children’s hospital was PACKED. It was the height of flu season and RSV. Fortunately for us, Reed’s case was escalated pretty quick because of his age and it was his eye. Once we finally got to a doctor, we had to hold Reed down for an iodine test. Sure enough, he had a scratch across his eye, but not alarming.

We had to treat Reed’s eye with drops for the next few days (which he hated), but by the time his birthday came, he was looking much better.

About a week after his birthday, Reed came down with a HORRIBLE stomach bug. He had spent the day with Duke and then had a pasta dinner with Ya-Ya, so nothing unusual. At about 1am, he cried out from his room after throwing up all over his crib. Julie cleaned him up and put him back down. He has done this once before and it was a one-and-done case. Two hours later he woke up again after another spell. Then thirty minutes later, a third time.

I gave him a bath this time to both settle him down (throwing up scared him) and clean him up. He didn’t feel hot, but he certainly had that pitiful look of helplessness that he usually has when he is sick. (Julie says it is the only time he will sit still and cuddle.) At this point we realized that this wasn’t going away, and we would just be changing sheets in his crib until we ran out if we kept trying to put him down. So, I stayed up with Reed and we watched Cars and Charlie Brown.

The short version of the LONG day that ensued was that Reed could not keep anything down (not even water) for about 15 hours. We had to slow-feed him a tablespoon of water every 10 minutes after he had not thrown up for two hours. He hated the idea of one tiny sip of water after we started to give it to him, and proceeded to call out for more water as a dehydrated traveler in the Sahara Desert. It was really hard that he could not understand us holding back the one thing we offer him freely on a regular basis. The entire day felt like a sick day for the family since we never once stepped foot outside and the line between night and day was so blurry.

It turned out to be viral, and it ran it’s course through fever eventually. Julie kept him home that Monday… unfortunately in the same proximity as 2 month old Alison.

Alison:
Whatever Reed had the week before, we are pretty sure that Ali got some of the residual effects. We tried fervently to wash our hands as we dealt with Reed and then had to tend to Ali. Unfortunately the close proximity to such sickness we are pretty sure gave Alison her first significant fever and a trip to… you guessed it… the emergency room.

We were fortunate in this situation that Julie’s mother was already over at the house for a visit. She was just about to say goodbye after Julie changed Ali’s diaper. They thought she felt a little hot, so during the diaper change, they checked her temp. Julie said she checked it 3 times… 101! For her age it means a trip to the hospital to rule out things like meningitis. Since Julie’s mom was already at the house, she was kind enough to stay with Reed, who we had already put down to bed for the night.

Once again to Methodist Children’s, and once again we jumped to the top of the waiting list because of the urgency and implications and her age. In fact Julie never sat down in the waiting room. She was already admitted by the time I parked the car and walked in. They gave Ali a dose of Tylenol after taking her temp and they moved us to a room in the ER.

We settled in for what was going to be a long night. In order to test for stuff like meningitis and other reasons for high fever on an infant, they have to run all sorts of tests. Urine sample, blood sample, chest x-rays… you name it. What ensued was the hardest time I have ever had as a parent, to date. The details of the story actually make me angry when I think about them again, so I will not dwell too much on them.

It was becoming apparent to me that before they started these tests we had created quite a buzz in the halls by having a 2 month old there in the ER to undergo all these tests. As our nurses we prepping for the procedures, there were a number of nurses and doctors that stuck their head into our room to catch a glimpse of our daughter, and offer assistance if there wasn’t already enough help. We were certainly a much more interesting case than the middle school kid next door that had violent puking spells every 20 minutes (or so it sounded like).

The urine sample was first. One of the nurses assigned to us was actually a shadow of the other. She came from the adult ER, and was getting her round in pediatrics. They were going to do a catheter on Ali to get the urine sample. I had prepared myself for the crying and discomfort that Ali would have while they were doing the procedure, but I was not prepared for the length of time it would take and the fact that the shadow could not correctly do the procedure. In the midst of my daughter’s pain and agony, these nurses were having a “teaching moment”. Finally the rookie stepped aside and the other nurse finished. It felt like a lifetime to hear Ali cry like that. Julie was tearing up, as was I. We heard Ali make sounds that we had never heard before. My fingers were digging into my arms as I had them crossed and bound as tight as I could. I couldn’t watch and I couldn’t walk away.

That was only the beginning, the blood test was next. Between 4 different nurses they had to stick Ali 6 different times to attempt to draw blood and give her an IV. They even sent the “A” team of nurses to draw blood from her tiny veins. Julie lost it when she heard that one had “blown a vein” during an attempt. They eventually just stuck her foot as they do for the PKU to draw blood and passed on the IV.

The chest x-ray was certainly the easiest. We just had to hold her still on the table. We did pass by the same room that Reed had been in for the iodine test on his eye just a few week before. They also did a nasal flush that really cleaned out the junk that Ali had been coughing on for quite a while.

We left the hospital at about 2am. Ali slept through the rest of the night, and I am sure it was pure exhaustion, as well as the nasal flush that helped her breathe easier.

We thought we had an early introduction to doctors with Reed when he needed stitches. He was eighteen months old when that happened. Ali beat her older brother by 16 months.

RB

2 months

Alison has established herself as the new female of the family. She is certainly more cuddly than Reed EVER was, but with that she is certainly more needy. She likes to be held more often than not, and will go from zero-to-meltdown if she is not getting what she wants. She will not stand dirty diapers as long as Reed would/will, and that is understandably more girlish.

She HAS slept through the night, but it did not become a pattern. In fact nothing about Ali’s schedule has become a pattern. It’s always a guessing game at how she will sleep at night based on how she slept during the day. We would try and keep her awake until we were going to bed in hopes that she would sleep longer into the night, but rarely did that work out. She could be falling asleep in our arms, and then take a full hour in her swing to settle down.

As for feeding, she SUCKS at bottles. Every minute of feeding equals at least one spit-up or dribble down the chin. Most of the time she gets frustrated before she gets full. Because of this, Julie has been Ali’s one and only source of feeding. This has been pretty hard on Julie, especially at the 3am feeding that I USED to do with Reed… not so much with Ali.

The stats:
Length – 22.75″
Weight – 11.31 lbs
Head circumference – 15.25″

Reed’s 2nd Birthday

Cars!!

Reed is in love with anything that moves. Cars, trucks, tractors, trains, planes… and BIG trucks. So, it was a no-brainer when we thought of that for 2nd birthday theme. Julie wanted to make the cake again, which she did such an awesome job on last year.

The only think we needed was some entertainment for few toddlers. Last year it was bubbles, which would have been just a as fun this year, but it doesn’t have much in common with cars. How about building a race track? I give Julie credit for the idea, and it was no-brainer as well. I built a straight track that took me back to the “Pinewood Derby” days in Cub Scouts. I think it was just as fun for me to build and play with as it was for Reed!

We were very fortunate to have a special guest in town for Reed’s birthday as well. Jim and Sarah Pike made the trip with their red-haired daughter, Kate, and 6-week old boy, John. Reed and Kate have been buddies since before they can both remember, and it’s really fun to see them recognize each other now.

We had lots of fun and the track was a hit. Even little Caleb Swayze stepped-out of his shyness to play with the cars on the track.

RB

New family pet

We have a new family pet… a parrot. This parrot isn’t the kind that flies or even one that needs to be kept in a cage. We do still have to feed it and clean it, but that is not the part we concern ourselves with. The best AND worst part about our new parrot? You guessed it… repeats EVERYTHING!

Reed’s vocabulary has really blossomed over the last month. When once he was too shy or timid to try talking, he is now attempting everything that we say to him… or around him. Julie got burned in classic style this morning when we were talking across the bedroom while I was getting ready for work. I mentioned something that caught her by surprise, and she responded with the traditionally girly response of “Shut… UP!” Reed didn’t miss a beat and chimed right in, repeatedly… “shut up, shut up, shut up, shut up”. We both busted out while Reed kept repeating since we gave him such a great reaction. 🙂

Among some of our favorites in his vocab, are the ones that he uses every day as part of his routine.

He as a [cereal] “bar” and “manana” for breakfast almost every morning. Up until recently, after we sit him down in his chair to eat, we feed the dog by letting him “ou-side” in the “brrrr-cold”.

Getting dressed in the mornings can be knock-down drag-out fight, or it can be a vocabulary lesson, you can never tell what the mood will be. Sometimes as a form of persuasion/distraction, we will talk about getting dressed to go “ou-side” and get in “Daddy’s truck” (which he LOVES to play in the Driver’s seat). Pointing out “Reed’s shoes” and “Daddy’s shoes” is where he first started assigning ownership. Now he will go through everyone’s attire and make sure that everyone has their assigned garments.

For the longest time, Reed used the word, “Ba”, for any large vehicle. I couldn’t get him to say “truck” for the life of me. On the other hand, “car” is one of the first words that he has enunciated very well from the beginning… all other words seem to fall off at the end, like “baa” for ‘bath’.

Roll call at the dinner table is another form of assigning ownership, but sometimes Reed will call out people that are not there, like “BB”, “Duke” and “Ya-Ya”. Diana Beth (DB), David and Laurie have all had their time at our dinner table, and according to Reed, each have their assigned seats.

The list could goes on forever and changes every day. Like I said, he is constantly trying new words and syllables. But, it is very hard to explain in writing how Reed’s expressions and inflection can turn a normal word or phrase on it’s head. I can’t do it justice here for you, and it’s hard to catch those moments on video. So, we do our best to enjoy our little parrot while he is here with us.

-RB