Category: Alison

4 Months…already?

How is this sweet girl already 4 months old?  When Reed was this tiny we would literally spend hours each night just staring at him and caring for him and loving on him.  Sweet Alison gets about an hour of that…while Reed is in the tub and getting ready for bed.  I feel like her little life is happening SO fast.

At 4 months old you are:

24 inches long (50%)

13 pounds 10 ounces (50%)

16 inch wide head (70%)

You still are 100% breastfed (yeah me!)

You are still a pretty sucky sleeper.  You and I have had lots of talks about this…but we are working on it.   On good nights we wrap you up in your blanket (I will show pictures, I promise it is safe) to keep you from taking your pacifier out.  You sleep even better when I put you on your changing pad inside your crib.  Those are the best nights.  You are capable of sleeping through the night, you just choose not to on many occasions.

You are still pretty snotty a lot of the time.  These San Antonio allergies wreak havoc on your little sinuses.

You are the smiliest baby I have ever known.  We don’t have to do much more than look at you and you are smiling and laughing it up. 

You love your bouncer and sit in it every night while we eat dinner.  You usually just smile and laugh at me through the whole meal.  I love that time

You are wearing 3-6 month clothes

You love Reed and are such a good sport about not crying when he hugs you too tight or accidentally hits you in the head with whatever toy he is holding when he dive bombs your body for a hug.

You love bath time with Daddy and just stare at him and laugh the whole time.

Speaking of Daddy…you are totally in love with him.  Seriously.  I am sometimes a little jealous because you give him the best giggles.

You and Daddy are going to be great friends because you have the same temperament, but also the same natural rhythm.  You love to stay up a little later…but you really love to sleep in!  On the weekends I usually put you in bed with Daddy while Reed and I get up and eat breakfast.  If I let it happen you and Daddy would sleep like that until 9am.  He is so excited to sleep in with you as you get older.

You look so much like your Daddy…and it makes him love you a little extra.

I think you have all the men wrapped around your little finger.  No joke, every single time Duke comes to visit you he has to hold you and he looks at me with tears in his eyes and says ‘she is just SO beautiful’.  Then he calls you a home wrecker and I like to think of you as a heart-breaker…but we don’t need you to wreck and homes when you get older.  Let’s just keep that straight!!  Ha

I was so nervous to have a little girl…but you are better than anything I could have imagined!!  (Remind me to read this again when you are in middle school and tell me you hate me for the first time…I will really need to remember this loving awesome little girl then :))

I love you sweet girl!!!

Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day truly is the most important holiday (except Easter) for me.  I would rather celebrate Mother’s Day than my birthday, and I don’t think that will ever change for the rest of my life.

My entire life all I wanted was to be a mom and raise a family.  That sounds so archaic, but it is also 100% truth.  Like most girls I had a timeline in my mind from the time I was a high-schooler.  I would go to A&M, meet my future husband in our sophomore year (freshman year was for partying).  We would get engaged at the end of our junior year and get married after we graduated.  We would both have  steady jobs right out of college (and I didn’t want to live in San Antonio).  3 years later we would have the first of 5 children.  Yes, I wanted 5 children.

Obviously that isn’t how my life turned out.  I met a boy and we were on the right path to be engaged in college and married right after.  Too bad God kept telling me he wasn’t the right guy.  Problem…there was nothing wrong with him!  I walked away from a perfectly good man, and a perfectly good relationship.  Then I proceeded to work in a job I hated, in a city that didn’t fit me.  After several stupid career moves and 2 changes to my city…I landed back home.  In good old San Antonio.  Low and behold…there was this other boy there.  He had always been there as my friend, but this time it was different.  This time everything was perfect.  Everything was easy.  This time he was the RIGHT boy.  Luckily he thought I was the right girl, too! 🙂

Back to the Mother’s Day part…we got married after dating for a measly 10 months, because when you know, you know.  Why waste time?  We got married in December 2005 and started trying to get pregnant in January 2007.  18 LONG months passed with no success.  Those 18 months were very long, and very dark for me.  My faith was rocked more in those 18 months than in the 3 years I spent without a single date.  Somehow I knew I would find the right husband, but I didn’t know if I would ever get my one true desire…a house full of children.  We talked about fertility treatments and I had a referral from my OB.  In the end I just couldn’t make myself do it.

We all know that God has his perfect timing, and I just felt like if I went in for fertility treatments I wasn’t relying on God’s perfect timing.  I don’t have any judgment for people who do fertility treatments…it just wasn’t what God wanted from us.  My good friend Jill gave me the perfect encouragement in that horrible and scary time.  She said that God is capable of anything, and that if he wants me to do fertility treatments he will change my heart.  She was 100% right, and her conviction gave me such incredible peace in a very scary time.

We all know the rest of the story…Reed was born in March of 2009.  Light of my life, joy of all joys.  Even how he was born was orchestrated by God.  God wanted Reed to live, and God wanted me to have Reed.  His timing is perfect.

Since we had so much trouble getting pregnant with Reed we intentionally did not prevent getting pregnant again.  Now we have Alison too!  Praise the Lord for his goodness!

So that is why Mother’s Day is better than all the holidays put together.  God has given me everything I could have ever hoped for.  Even on the really challenging days I am usually able to keep my gratitude at the front of my mind.  It helps to keep me from getting too frustrated with that little 2 year old when he wants to wear shorts in January, or with Alison when she thinks it’s time to play at 3am.

Being a Mother is the single greatest gift I have ever received.  Now my job is to make sure I honor this gift by honoring this gift.  All I want is to raise kind, generous, loving children…who love football and Jesus!!!

JB

Sleep Lottery

Apparently it is impossible to win the baby sleep lottery twice (and if any of you have hit it twice…don’t tell me.  Ignorance is bliss at this point).

Reed was the ‘mythical child’ (according to Sarah).  He slept through the night starting at 7 weeks old and never looked back.  In my new mom foolishness I thought this was totally normal.  I couldn’t understand why some children who were 8 and 10 months old who still didn’t sleep through the night.  God is laughing at that now.

Ali is a sucky sleeper.  She is totally capable of sleeping through the night and definitely doesn’t need to eat during the night.  She sleeps through the night maybe once or twice a week.  Too bad she has also been known to wake up at 11, 2:30 and 5:30 all in the same night.

We just can’t get that girl into a good routine. For the last week or so we have been very diligent about trying to create a bedtime routine for her.  I feed her while Reed is getting his bath and getting ready for bed.  Then Randy gives Ali a bath.  Usually she is ready to settle down and go to sleep…but not every night.  And usually she will sleep until 4:30 or so…but not every night.  Some nights she will only settle down if we wrap her up in a receiving blanket and put her in the swing.  Other nights she just kicks and kicks like a crazy person, so we put her in her crib.

Just this past week I felt like I had cracked the sleep code.  She had woken up in the night and I changed her diaper.  Before I could get her jammies back on she was out cold on her changing table pad.  I took this as a sign and just moved her (on the changing pad) into her crib.  She never woke up again the whole night.  Before anyone passes judgement I realize this is probably not an approved sleeping position…but I don’t care.  She was on her back and sound asleep.  She didn’t move all night.

This position worked well for several nights, but last night she wouldn’t settle down and it was back to the swing.

This little girl is already a diva and she isn’t even 4 months old yet!!!  Oh yeah, she also sucks at keeping the pacifier in her mouth!

Here are a few of the many sleep positions she works…

Everybody do The Daycare Shuffle

I have to admit, the most stressful parts of my day are the pick-up and drop-off at daycare. I have the shortest commute, so Daddy’s truck has been deemed the Kid Taxi. That used to not be as big of a deal when it was just Reed and I would be in-and-out in 2 minutes or less. When Reed started walking on his own with my guidance, we added a bit more time for his short legs, but it was still no sweat.

Now that Alison has started daycare, she alone has created 3 times the cargo necessary to be transported in and out of the house on a daily basis. Alison in her carrier plus her daycare bag is enough, but add a wandering, headstrong toddler to the mix and you have chaos in a bottle.

Reed’s latest favorite phrase is, “all by self”. It is mostly used when getting into and out of my truck. He likes to climb up the running board and into the cab, and then down the big steps to the ground. As you can imagine, his insistence on doing this can add to Daddy’s frustration when time is not on our side.

There are 2 rules for Ali’s classroom that cause a bit of frustration everyday:
1) You either have to have shoe covers on, or take off your shoes completely. Given that there are never any shoe covers available, I have to unlace and bend down to take my shoes off every time. They don’t even have a bench or chair for parents to do this, so I am always bending over in the middle of the hallway (with parents and kids walking nearby), or propping myself against the wall. Either way, it is a huge inconvenience for those of us that are not wearing slip-ons or flip-flops. I have watched one other working mom wear house slippers, and I’m seriously considering the alternative.
2) Siblings cannot enter the infant classroom. I get this one, I really do, but it causes a logistics catch-22. Logic says that Ali is the last one I drop off, and the first one I pick up. However, these rules don’t account for the following: Trying to usher a toddler to his classroom with 2 arm loads of gear, and taking the infant carrier to the toddler room for pick up where she will be mauled by other toddlers while trying to round up the sibling.

I’m hoping that this is as hard as it is going to get, and it will be better soon as the kids get older in the near future. If any of you older parents have different opinions, you can hold them to yourself and allow me to live in ignorance, with hope that the light at the end of the tunnel is getting bigger.

RB

Ali is 3 Months!

Alison has made it.  She is officially 3 months old.  Why is this such a huge milestone?  Because now we don’t have to take her to the emergency room unless her temp gets to 105!  Let’s pray that doesn’t happen…ever.

Ali is officially the happiest little girl I know.  She is so smiley and chatty all the time.  All you really have to do is look at her and she will flash one of her sweet open mouthed smiles your way.  (Reed was such a stingy smiler.  He made us work hard for every single one.  And not much has changed :))

Ali is still struggling with her sleep.  Some nights she does awesome and some night she is up a lot.  On a good night she will sleep from 8 – 5, but all bets are off if it’s a bad night.  I chalk her sleep problems up to a few things.  1. She can’t breathe.  The poor child has been snotty since the day she was born.  2. We don’t have a consistent bed time routine.  Reed was the lucky first born who had a consistent bed time routine and still does today.  Poor Ali just has to go with the flow.  We are going to start working on a routine though.

Ali is still 100% breast fed which makes me proud. 

She rolled from front to back for the first time when she was 2 months and 2 weeks old.  I thought it was a fluke so I never posted anything about it.  Turns out it wasn’t a fluke.  She does it all the time.  I’m a bad mom and don’t make her do tummy time very often so I really don’t know if she can go from front to back.  Guess we will ask day care about that one…

She is wearing size 1-2 diapers and has just moved up to size 3-6month clothes.  At her doctor’s appt she weighed 12 pounds, 15 ounces. 

I think my favorite thing about Ali and our family is how much her daddy loves her.  Randy loves Reed and always has…but I can definitely see an extra bit of love for our little girl.  Not only is she a girl, but she looks SO much like Randy.  He is extra sweet to her and really loves on her.  Makes me smile 🙂

Reed is also still in love with her.  He always wants to “hug Ali” and “see Ali”.  I love that.  I know it will wear off once they have to start sharing, but for now it melts my heart every time.  (Except when he gets mad and says ‘Ali down’ or when he squeezes her head.  Yes, he has squeezed her head.  Little punk!)

Emergency Room

We’ve had quite the excitement in our house over the last month, and not the good kind. Both kids have been sick and we have taken 2 separate trips to the emergency room. When it rains, it pours.

Reed:
A few weeks ago, I was building the race track for Reed’s 2nd Birthday party. I used some particle board that I had leftover from another project. One evening I was working in the garage with Reed out there with me, along with Julie. As I was picking up the large piece of particle board to position it on the saw horses, I didn’t see Reed behind me to my left. The board swung up and the corner caught him in the corner of his right eye, next to the bridge of his nose. He dropped to the ground holding his face as Julie and I both were realizing what had just happened.

There was no significant blood, but his eyelid and area around his eye were certainly swelling. Julie called her mother for an assessment and she came right over… emergency room it is.

The waiting room of Methodist Children’s hospital was PACKED. It was the height of flu season and RSV. Fortunately for us, Reed’s case was escalated pretty quick because of his age and it was his eye. Once we finally got to a doctor, we had to hold Reed down for an iodine test. Sure enough, he had a scratch across his eye, but not alarming.

We had to treat Reed’s eye with drops for the next few days (which he hated), but by the time his birthday came, he was looking much better.

About a week after his birthday, Reed came down with a HORRIBLE stomach bug. He had spent the day with Duke and then had a pasta dinner with Ya-Ya, so nothing unusual. At about 1am, he cried out from his room after throwing up all over his crib. Julie cleaned him up and put him back down. He has done this once before and it was a one-and-done case. Two hours later he woke up again after another spell. Then thirty minutes later, a third time.

I gave him a bath this time to both settle him down (throwing up scared him) and clean him up. He didn’t feel hot, but he certainly had that pitiful look of helplessness that he usually has when he is sick. (Julie says it is the only time he will sit still and cuddle.) At this point we realized that this wasn’t going away, and we would just be changing sheets in his crib until we ran out if we kept trying to put him down. So, I stayed up with Reed and we watched Cars and Charlie Brown.

The short version of the LONG day that ensued was that Reed could not keep anything down (not even water) for about 15 hours. We had to slow-feed him a tablespoon of water every 10 minutes after he had not thrown up for two hours. He hated the idea of one tiny sip of water after we started to give it to him, and proceeded to call out for more water as a dehydrated traveler in the Sahara Desert. It was really hard that he could not understand us holding back the one thing we offer him freely on a regular basis. The entire day felt like a sick day for the family since we never once stepped foot outside and the line between night and day was so blurry.

It turned out to be viral, and it ran it’s course through fever eventually. Julie kept him home that Monday… unfortunately in the same proximity as 2 month old Alison.

Alison:
Whatever Reed had the week before, we are pretty sure that Ali got some of the residual effects. We tried fervently to wash our hands as we dealt with Reed and then had to tend to Ali. Unfortunately the close proximity to such sickness we are pretty sure gave Alison her first significant fever and a trip to… you guessed it… the emergency room.

We were fortunate in this situation that Julie’s mother was already over at the house for a visit. She was just about to say goodbye after Julie changed Ali’s diaper. They thought she felt a little hot, so during the diaper change, they checked her temp. Julie said she checked it 3 times… 101! For her age it means a trip to the hospital to rule out things like meningitis. Since Julie’s mom was already at the house, she was kind enough to stay with Reed, who we had already put down to bed for the night.

Once again to Methodist Children’s, and once again we jumped to the top of the waiting list because of the urgency and implications and her age. In fact Julie never sat down in the waiting room. She was already admitted by the time I parked the car and walked in. They gave Ali a dose of Tylenol after taking her temp and they moved us to a room in the ER.

We settled in for what was going to be a long night. In order to test for stuff like meningitis and other reasons for high fever on an infant, they have to run all sorts of tests. Urine sample, blood sample, chest x-rays… you name it. What ensued was the hardest time I have ever had as a parent, to date. The details of the story actually make me angry when I think about them again, so I will not dwell too much on them.

It was becoming apparent to me that before they started these tests we had created quite a buzz in the halls by having a 2 month old there in the ER to undergo all these tests. As our nurses we prepping for the procedures, there were a number of nurses and doctors that stuck their head into our room to catch a glimpse of our daughter, and offer assistance if there wasn’t already enough help. We were certainly a much more interesting case than the middle school kid next door that had violent puking spells every 20 minutes (or so it sounded like).

The urine sample was first. One of the nurses assigned to us was actually a shadow of the other. She came from the adult ER, and was getting her round in pediatrics. They were going to do a catheter on Ali to get the urine sample. I had prepared myself for the crying and discomfort that Ali would have while they were doing the procedure, but I was not prepared for the length of time it would take and the fact that the shadow could not correctly do the procedure. In the midst of my daughter’s pain and agony, these nurses were having a “teaching moment”. Finally the rookie stepped aside and the other nurse finished. It felt like a lifetime to hear Ali cry like that. Julie was tearing up, as was I. We heard Ali make sounds that we had never heard before. My fingers were digging into my arms as I had them crossed and bound as tight as I could. I couldn’t watch and I couldn’t walk away.

That was only the beginning, the blood test was next. Between 4 different nurses they had to stick Ali 6 different times to attempt to draw blood and give her an IV. They even sent the “A” team of nurses to draw blood from her tiny veins. Julie lost it when she heard that one had “blown a vein” during an attempt. They eventually just stuck her foot as they do for the PKU to draw blood and passed on the IV.

The chest x-ray was certainly the easiest. We just had to hold her still on the table. We did pass by the same room that Reed had been in for the iodine test on his eye just a few week before. They also did a nasal flush that really cleaned out the junk that Ali had been coughing on for quite a while.

We left the hospital at about 2am. Ali slept through the rest of the night, and I am sure it was pure exhaustion, as well as the nasal flush that helped her breathe easier.

We thought we had an early introduction to doctors with Reed when he needed stitches. He was eighteen months old when that happened. Ali beat her older brother by 16 months.

RB

2 months

Alison has established herself as the new female of the family. She is certainly more cuddly than Reed EVER was, but with that she is certainly more needy. She likes to be held more often than not, and will go from zero-to-meltdown if she is not getting what she wants. She will not stand dirty diapers as long as Reed would/will, and that is understandably more girlish.

She HAS slept through the night, but it did not become a pattern. In fact nothing about Ali’s schedule has become a pattern. It’s always a guessing game at how she will sleep at night based on how she slept during the day. We would try and keep her awake until we were going to bed in hopes that she would sleep longer into the night, but rarely did that work out. She could be falling asleep in our arms, and then take a full hour in her swing to settle down.

As for feeding, she SUCKS at bottles. Every minute of feeding equals at least one spit-up or dribble down the chin. Most of the time she gets frustrated before she gets full. Because of this, Julie has been Ali’s one and only source of feeding. This has been pretty hard on Julie, especially at the 3am feeding that I USED to do with Reed… not so much with Ali.

The stats:
Length – 22.75″
Weight – 11.31 lbs
Head circumference – 15.25″

6 Weeks

Ali is already 6 weeks old.  Where oh where has the time gone?

  • I can’t believe she is sleeping in her crib (for the last 2 weeks).
  • I can’t believe she doesn’t need her head rest in her carrier anymore.
  • I can’t believe she moved out of newborn clothes (around 4 weeks).
  • I can’t believe she is only waking up at 3 and 7am at night.
  • I can’t believe I go back to work in 6 short weeks 🙁

She is getting so much prettier every single day.  I love her so much and already can’t imagine life without her.

Juile

First month as a family of four

The friends that have gone before us by adding a second child to the family have openly admitted, “It’s a freakin’ circus.” Well, we’ve had our first experience with the Baldwin Traveling Roadshow this past month once we added Alison to the family and got home from the hospital.

This is certainly a season of our lives that is temporary, but can be the most challenging on us emotionally and physically. It can also be the most rewarding.

While Julie and I have to work on our communication and teamwork when juggling the kids, we have also seen how Reed has responded very well to his little sister. He is generally compliant to us when she needs our attention more than he does. Challenges and rewards are the name of the game for all parents and families… you just hope you get more of the latter to keep you going.

-RB

Bunch of random thoughts

Sorry for such a long delay between posts.  I have all these thoughts pop into my head during the day, and never manage to make it to post it on the blog.  Consequently this is just a random mess of thoughts 🙂

To continue comparing my children…Alison is much harder than Reed was as a newborn.  (Let’s hope this means she will be an easier toddler!)  The first 2 or 3 weeks were pretty normal but lately her sleep habits have gotten terrible…and I am grumpy as a result.  All of you warned me that have a cuddly baby was a bad thing and you are right!  She only wants to go to sleep in my arms.  Sometimes I don’t want to sit on the couch and hold a baby ALL day.  I’m good with it for most of the day, but not all.  As a result of her cuddliness I haven’t been working out like I need to and I haven’t lost a single pound since day 5 postpartum.  (On day 5 I had lost 20 pounds and I haven’t lost another ounce since!) Back to the crappy sleep.  She still has her days and nights mixed up and so she is awake from like 11pm to 1am.  NOT a good thing.  We are trying to keep her awake more during the day to fix this problem.

The second major difference is that she is still spitting up.  It isn’t ever a lot, but it’s enough so that I always feel like I’m covered in throw up.  I didn’t realize how annoying this was.  I should have enjoyed Reed’s lack of throw up a WHOLE lot more.

Ali had her 4 week checkup Monday and she weighed 9’6″ (70%) and was 21inches long (50%)  Sadly, Reed gave her pink eye so I had to put ointment in her eyes for a few days.  I hated seeing her goopy eyes when she woke up in the morning.  So sad.

Other than my earlier complaints we are doing great!  Reed still loves Ali, sometimes too much.  We are still working on ‘gentle’.

Last random thought…I really suck at being a stay at home mom.  I am not good at self motivation and we wind up spending way too much time at the house.  However on the other hand I’m sad that I’m going back to work in 7 short weeks.  Is there any way to make me happy?  Sometimes I even annoy myself!!!