Category: Julie

The important progress report

If you know me at all you know that I obsess about my weight.  There is no mystery…its just a fact.  I didn’t lose my baby weight from Reed until I got pregnant with Ali.  I am NOT doing that again!  Ali is 3 months old today (yes, I will make a separate post for her) and I still have almost 20 pounds to lose.  I gained way too much when I was pregnant with her but I’m going to be proactive about losing it this time. 

Since Lent started I have lost 6 pounds and I hope to lose another few before it ends (and I start letting myself eat sugar again!).  I also started Weight Watchers at work last Wednesday.  Nothing like a weekly weigh in to keep you accountable.  I am also being very intentional about what I bring to work for lunch and snacks.  Luckily we have a gym at work, so I can spend my lunch hour 3 or 4 times a week working out.  (Lord knows I would never find the time to workout after work).  Let’s hope this baby weight will come off sooner than last time 🙂

Lent

Lent is a very important season in my life.  I did not grow up ‘giving something up for Lent’.  That is traditionally a Catholic practice and I was raised both Methodist and Presbyterian.  To be honest when I was little we spent most Easter weekends at the lake and didn’t even go to church.  We went to church on a regular basis, but Easter weekend was usually a beautiful spring weekend and so we went to the lake to get the property ready for the summer. 

Fast forward to my life as a wife and mother.  Lent is the single most important time of the year for me.  Holy Week is truly my favorite week of the year.  Yep, it trumps Christmas and birthdays and Halloween (and you know how I LOVE Halloween).  As an adult I have found not only a church and group of church friends that inspire me to be more Christ-like but also a husband who is a fantastic spiritual partner.   I think because I wasn’t raised with ‘giving something up for Lent’ as a requirement, it feels so much more real to me.  I take this season of discipline very seriously.  Every year I pick something that I love, but that I should give up.  One year it was tortillas.  Seems minor, but it was a BIG deal.  One year I gave up cheese.  Seriously, hardest 40 days ever.  This year I had several things I desperately wanted to do to honor Christ and the sacrifice he made to save us all.

Remember my earlier post about being more intentional in my life?  The first Lent discipline I could think of to honor that desire was to give up Facebook.  Facebook is not a priority in my life, but it is something I do all the time, without thinking.  When I’m waiting for a meeting to start, I check FB, when I’m waiting for Reed to finish eating breakfast I check FB, when I’m riding in the car I check FB (riding, not driving!).  I realized how often I check it, and I don’t even really care about it.  Seemed like a very obvious distraction that I should forgo for these 40 days.  What have I learned?  I really don’t need FB!  I honestly don’t miss it at all.  Will I get back on once Easter comes, sure.  Will I incessently check it? Nope.  It is amazing how easy it is to give up Facebook.  Do you find yourself checking it all the time just to fill an empty moment?  I encourage you to put it away.  Look out the window instead.  Or talk to your kids more.  (Or do some work! :))

The second thing I did for Lent was give up sugar.  That’s right.  ALL sugar.  Including high fructose corn syrup, etc.  Why sugar?  Because I absolutely LOVE it.  )I also have lots of baby weight I need to lose and I figured this would help).  I have been dreaming of sugar even before Lent started because I was nervous to give it up.  I ate my weight in birthday cake (mine and Reed’s birthdays were right before Ash Wednesday) because I was so nervous about giving it up.  How am I doing now that Easter is getting close?  Do I still miss it?  You better believe it!!  I dream about sugar.  I also dream about the shame I would feel if I forgot and accidentally ate some.  That gives me nightmares.  Am I already planning what I will eat first?  You bet!  I c-a-n-n-o-t wait until Easter morning when I can eat some sweets!! 

The final thing I committed to do for Lent is read a 40 day devotional called ’24 Hours that changed the World’.  It has been fantastic.  It has grounded me every single day and reminded me why I am denying myself these human pleasures.  It is to honor and remember what Christ did in those last 24 hours of his life.  I highly recommend this devotional if you are looking for one.  It is appropriate for any time of year, not just during Lent.

There you have it.  My heart on a platter.  Hope you enjoyed 🙂

Emergency Room

We’ve had quite the excitement in our house over the last month, and not the good kind. Both kids have been sick and we have taken 2 separate trips to the emergency room. When it rains, it pours.

Reed:
A few weeks ago, I was building the race track for Reed’s 2nd Birthday party. I used some particle board that I had leftover from another project. One evening I was working in the garage with Reed out there with me, along with Julie. As I was picking up the large piece of particle board to position it on the saw horses, I didn’t see Reed behind me to my left. The board swung up and the corner caught him in the corner of his right eye, next to the bridge of his nose. He dropped to the ground holding his face as Julie and I both were realizing what had just happened.

There was no significant blood, but his eyelid and area around his eye were certainly swelling. Julie called her mother for an assessment and she came right over… emergency room it is.

The waiting room of Methodist Children’s hospital was PACKED. It was the height of flu season and RSV. Fortunately for us, Reed’s case was escalated pretty quick because of his age and it was his eye. Once we finally got to a doctor, we had to hold Reed down for an iodine test. Sure enough, he had a scratch across his eye, but not alarming.

We had to treat Reed’s eye with drops for the next few days (which he hated), but by the time his birthday came, he was looking much better.

About a week after his birthday, Reed came down with a HORRIBLE stomach bug. He had spent the day with Duke and then had a pasta dinner with Ya-Ya, so nothing unusual. At about 1am, he cried out from his room after throwing up all over his crib. Julie cleaned him up and put him back down. He has done this once before and it was a one-and-done case. Two hours later he woke up again after another spell. Then thirty minutes later, a third time.

I gave him a bath this time to both settle him down (throwing up scared him) and clean him up. He didn’t feel hot, but he certainly had that pitiful look of helplessness that he usually has when he is sick. (Julie says it is the only time he will sit still and cuddle.) At this point we realized that this wasn’t going away, and we would just be changing sheets in his crib until we ran out if we kept trying to put him down. So, I stayed up with Reed and we watched Cars and Charlie Brown.

The short version of the LONG day that ensued was that Reed could not keep anything down (not even water) for about 15 hours. We had to slow-feed him a tablespoon of water every 10 minutes after he had not thrown up for two hours. He hated the idea of one tiny sip of water after we started to give it to him, and proceeded to call out for more water as a dehydrated traveler in the Sahara Desert. It was really hard that he could not understand us holding back the one thing we offer him freely on a regular basis. The entire day felt like a sick day for the family since we never once stepped foot outside and the line between night and day was so blurry.

It turned out to be viral, and it ran it’s course through fever eventually. Julie kept him home that Monday… unfortunately in the same proximity as 2 month old Alison.

Alison:
Whatever Reed had the week before, we are pretty sure that Ali got some of the residual effects. We tried fervently to wash our hands as we dealt with Reed and then had to tend to Ali. Unfortunately the close proximity to such sickness we are pretty sure gave Alison her first significant fever and a trip to… you guessed it… the emergency room.

We were fortunate in this situation that Julie’s mother was already over at the house for a visit. She was just about to say goodbye after Julie changed Ali’s diaper. They thought she felt a little hot, so during the diaper change, they checked her temp. Julie said she checked it 3 times… 101! For her age it means a trip to the hospital to rule out things like meningitis. Since Julie’s mom was already at the house, she was kind enough to stay with Reed, who we had already put down to bed for the night.

Once again to Methodist Children’s, and once again we jumped to the top of the waiting list because of the urgency and implications and her age. In fact Julie never sat down in the waiting room. She was already admitted by the time I parked the car and walked in. They gave Ali a dose of Tylenol after taking her temp and they moved us to a room in the ER.

We settled in for what was going to be a long night. In order to test for stuff like meningitis and other reasons for high fever on an infant, they have to run all sorts of tests. Urine sample, blood sample, chest x-rays… you name it. What ensued was the hardest time I have ever had as a parent, to date. The details of the story actually make me angry when I think about them again, so I will not dwell too much on them.

It was becoming apparent to me that before they started these tests we had created quite a buzz in the halls by having a 2 month old there in the ER to undergo all these tests. As our nurses we prepping for the procedures, there were a number of nurses and doctors that stuck their head into our room to catch a glimpse of our daughter, and offer assistance if there wasn’t already enough help. We were certainly a much more interesting case than the middle school kid next door that had violent puking spells every 20 minutes (or so it sounded like).

The urine sample was first. One of the nurses assigned to us was actually a shadow of the other. She came from the adult ER, and was getting her round in pediatrics. They were going to do a catheter on Ali to get the urine sample. I had prepared myself for the crying and discomfort that Ali would have while they were doing the procedure, but I was not prepared for the length of time it would take and the fact that the shadow could not correctly do the procedure. In the midst of my daughter’s pain and agony, these nurses were having a “teaching moment”. Finally the rookie stepped aside and the other nurse finished. It felt like a lifetime to hear Ali cry like that. Julie was tearing up, as was I. We heard Ali make sounds that we had never heard before. My fingers were digging into my arms as I had them crossed and bound as tight as I could. I couldn’t watch and I couldn’t walk away.

That was only the beginning, the blood test was next. Between 4 different nurses they had to stick Ali 6 different times to attempt to draw blood and give her an IV. They even sent the “A” team of nurses to draw blood from her tiny veins. Julie lost it when she heard that one had “blown a vein” during an attempt. They eventually just stuck her foot as they do for the PKU to draw blood and passed on the IV.

The chest x-ray was certainly the easiest. We just had to hold her still on the table. We did pass by the same room that Reed had been in for the iodine test on his eye just a few week before. They also did a nasal flush that really cleaned out the junk that Ali had been coughing on for quite a while.

We left the hospital at about 2am. Ali slept through the rest of the night, and I am sure it was pure exhaustion, as well as the nasal flush that helped her breathe easier.

We thought we had an early introduction to doctors with Reed when he needed stitches. He was eighteen months old when that happened. Ali beat her older brother by 16 months.

RB

First month as a family of four

The friends that have gone before us by adding a second child to the family have openly admitted, “It’s a freakin’ circus.” Well, we’ve had our first experience with the Baldwin Traveling Roadshow this past month once we added Alison to the family and got home from the hospital.

This is certainly a season of our lives that is temporary, but can be the most challenging on us emotionally and physically. It can also be the most rewarding.

While Julie and I have to work on our communication and teamwork when juggling the kids, we have also seen how Reed has responded very well to his little sister. He is generally compliant to us when she needs our attention more than he does. Challenges and rewards are the name of the game for all parents and families… you just hope you get more of the latter to keep you going.

-RB

Intentional

I have not written this post until today although I have had it in my head since Christmas.  There are a myriad of reasons, but most of all I wasn’t brave enough to take this blog in ‘that’ direction.  Up until today this blog has been a place to post pictures of my family that I love so dearly and to journal about the events of our life together.  This has been driving me crazy since day one for 2 reasons.  1. We use Facebook for that.  Anytime I post a picture on this blog it feels redundant because we have probably already posted the same picture on FB.  It’s easier and faster to post there.  2. The blog feels like homework.  It feels like something we are ‘supposed’ to keep up with, but writing posts doesn’t bring me joy.  In this busy life if I don’t enjoy doing something, it doesn’t get done.

So what the heck does ‘Intentional’ mean anyway.  Intentional is my New Year’s resolution.  It is more than a resolution though, it is a conscious change that I hope to make this year that will last the rest of my life.  Simply put: I want to be more intentional about how I spend every moment of my life.  When I am at work I want to be intentional about the work to be done, when I am at home with my children I want to focus on them and molding them into the kind, respectful and responsible children I want them to be.  I also need to focus on honoring Randy the way he should be honored as my husband and the father of my children.  I want to be intentional about my relationship with God.  I need to make time EVERY DAY for Him.  Too often this falls to the back burner and it should be the first thing on my list everyday.

I have hesitated to take the blog posts deeper, because it isn’t comfortable.  It isn’t fun to write about things you struggle with.  It isn’t pretty to write things that hurt or discuss the ways that God moments ‘mess you up’.  I hope I will have the guts to follow through.  I hope my ‘resolution’ will be a life changing process.  I pray that I can lead my children to a life filled with love for others and for Jesus.  I don’t want to drop them off at Sunday school and hope that someone else can teach them for me.  They need to learn from Randy and from me.  I pray that they will learn how a married couple should love and respect each other and consequently want to love their future spouse the same way.  I learned about love from my parents and have modeled many parts of our relationship after them.

There you have it.  I have every intention of still posting the pretty entries about how much I love my kids and husband and how much fun we have together.  But I also hope to step out of my comfort zone and dig a little deeper.

Reed vs. Ali

Reed and Ali are already SO different!  I don’t really believe in comparing your children to one another, but it is hard not to do right now when there are such stark differences.

Reed was terrible at nursing and many times I didn’t think we would make it. Ali is awesome.  She loves to nurse and sometimes I think she would stay there all the time if I let her.  One point for Ali

Reed didn’t spit up once.  In the beginning Ali spit up a little after every feeding.  It wasn’t a lot and her doctor thinks its because I am just making too much for her to swallow, but we have no experience with a spitter.  I never have a burp cloth around and we really don’t even own that many, much less any bibs.  I don’t think I have a single one for her!  One point for Reed

Reed was a fussy sleeper.  Looking back it is probably because he wasn’t getting enough to eat and he was hungry most of the time.  Ali is an AWESOME sleeper!!  She consistently eats before I go to bed (10:30ish) and only wakes up at 2:30 and 5:30.  She nurses and goes right back to sleep.  One point for Ali (that one should probably count for 2 or 3!)

You want to know why Ali wins the comparison for this age?  She is a cuddler!!!  From the day Reed was born (literally, the first time I held him he tried to wiggle out of my arms) he was a wiggly boy and refused to cuddle.  Even now I have to trick him into giving me a hug and kiss.  Ali is a big snuggler and I think she would lay on my shoulder all day long if I let her.  Thank the Lord for small favors!!!

Overall Ali is much easier, but I’m sure it is also because I am much more comfortable with newborns.  Luckily, this isn’t a contest and I love them both more than I thought possible!!  All that worry about how we were going to handle a toddler and a newborn haven’t been a big deal…YET!  I know the fun is just beginning 🙂

Ali

Reed

The most uneventful birth story

I am happy to tell this super uneventful story.  We scheduled a C-section for January 11, 2011 back in November.  The only wild card in the whole plan was whether or not she would decide to come early.  Alison measured a few weeks big for her age at almost every sonogram, so an early appearance was always a possibility.  I wanted her to wait as long as possible because everyday she stayed inside was another day away from Christmas for her birthday.

The morning of 1/11/11 we woke up, packed up the truck and dropped Reed off at day care just like it was any other day.  Only this day we drove to the hospital, checked in for our 11am surgery and went straight to pre-op. The only eventful part was the anesthesia…

When I delivered Reed I had an epidural.  Zero pain, zero problems.  For whatever reason this doctor likes to do a spinal tap for ‘elective’ c-sections.  I was not prepared for this, which is probably a good thing.  Have any of you ever had a spinal tap?  I had no idea I could be in that much pain.  Seriously.  Horrible.  It only took a few minutes to get the medicine into my spine, but the whole time I was in horrible pain, plus I was terrified that the doctor was going to mess up and leave me paralyzed.  If you are ever given the choice…go with an epidural.  Seriously.  The only good part about it is that I could feel my legs as soon as I was in recovery.  That was nice, but I would still prefer the epidural.

So I get the spinal tap and lay down.  Immediately my chest starts burning like the way that I imagine it feels (from Twilight) to be turned into a vampire.  My heart is literally on fire like I have never felt before.  Not to be too dramatic, but I was afraid something was very wrong.  The anesthesiologist assured me my vitals looked good and that everything was fine…but that didn’t take the pain away.  I heard one other scary thing when Dr. Vanover (my OB) asked for the vacuum.  Yikes!!  Turns out I was right about how low she had been.  They had to use the vacuum on her little head because she was so lodged into my pelvis that Dr. Vanover couldn’t get a good grip on her to pull her out.  Finally I heard what I had been waiting for…’she so chunky!’  I love Dr. Vanover.

Alison was a little chunk, but almost the exact measurements as Reed.  She was 8 pounds, 2 ounces and 20 inches long.  Reed was 8 pounds 3 ounces and 19.5 inches long.  Not to mention she looked JUST like him when she was born.  It was like going back in time and seeing Reed’s little face for the first time.

Wow

There really aren’t any words.  I can’t believe how humongous I got…luckily it is almost over and I can start working on slimming back down again.  Month 1 versus Month 9.  Laugh at will 🙂

Month 1

VS

Month 9

22 Days

22 Days left.  22 days doesn’t seem like a long time.  Some times I feel like Alison will be here tomorrow, and some days it feels like an eternity.  Delivery is scheduled for 3 weeks from tomorrow.  My belly is scary huge and everyone (even people I don’t know) ask if I am going to make it.  How the heck would I know?  I assume I’m going to make it, but if I don’t that is ok too.

This pregnancy has been similar to the first, but also different.  Biggest difference is I weighed almost 20 pounds less when I got pregnant this time.  Second biggest difference is I have worked out (both cardio and weights) several times a week this entire pregnancy.  Now here we are in the home stretch and I can still tie my shoes, wear my rings, and sit on the floor to play with Reed.  I needed to write this post today…because I might not be able to do these things tomorrow!!  As of now I feel good, but I’m ready to get rid of this belly.  Being short stinks when you are pregnant 🙂

Tonight we are finally finishing the nursery and I will post pictures either tonight or tomorrow.  It is definitely more pink and girly than I ever thought I would do.  But I love it.  I hope she will love it too!

-Julie

25 Weeks

Alison and I had our 25 week check up today.  My fantastic OB ordered another sonogram because she said that I didn’t get a good look at Ali’s face during the last one.  Dr. Vanover is definitely THE BEST!

Everything looks great and she even let us take a few pictures of her sweet face.  It’s hard to see much, but I think she looks a lot like Reed.  Her little face has gotten so chubby and cute.  It does look like she is going to be a big baby just like her brother.  As of today she weighed 2 pounds!  The sonographer estimated her due date to be 1/15/11 instead of 1/23/11 just based on her size.  We aren’t changing delivery date or her actual due date, it just goes to show she is a big girl.

It really takes me by surprise how fast this pregnancy is going by.  As of today I only have 95 days until her delivery date…yikes!  Time to get that nursery painted and get some furniture in there.  I have another appointment in 3 weeks and then we start the 2 week appointments.  I just can’t believe I am already this far into the pregnancy.  She will be here before we know it!